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Finding my voice's avatar

Hi Jo, Im the editor at the London Aces Hub, we have a lived experience section in our Newsletter and I would love to share your article there. Im due to publish over the weekend, if I don't hear back from you soon, Im happy to put it in the next newsletter. Let me know? Take Care Bonnie

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I guess it would be good to see an example or a link to your website if you have one? Would you be publishing as is? Generally I think it’s great and am glad it resonates but I realise I may just say yes without checking it out. 😂😬

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You can see under about us there previous newsletters.

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Check out the London Aces Hub

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This feels familiar to me. Phrases like “you’ve survived 100% of your worst days” are surely meant kindly, but — for me — survival doesn't always feel like a relief.

Maybe it’s not quite what you meant, but I get uneasy about what passes for “wellbeing”. I’ve seen it in hospitals and clinics: lots of practitioners are genuinely brilliant, and totally present; others are there because a course accepted them or a career opened up, repeating phrases they’ve learned to say.

It feels the same online. Some voices — like yours — are careful, generous, resonant. Others, less so. It feels like a lot of folk talk about “oversharing” vs “resilience” as content — but rarely sit with genuine trauma.

What helps me is hearing from others like you, and being heard in return by those who have the time to listen to me. That feels steady. Hopeful, even. There's lovely people out there.

A subscriber of mine recently recommended Moominland Midwinter — a really sweet book! And a friend/fellow insomniac I play online Scrabble with told me, “easy does it.” and then sent me a a video of a song she'd written. I keep saying “easy does it” it to myself now. It sounds nice in my head.

Ramble!

I hope you take it easy this evening. x

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Jo's avatar

Definitely survival doesn’t always feel like relief! And I agree just because someone says they have a qualification doesn’t mean they’re qualified. Admitting what you don’t know is as important as learning.

Thank you for your kind and considered words too. Easy does it is a good mantra. It’s that step to build in a pause. Something I’m not always very good at!

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